How to be confident

How to be confident

There are lots of ways to improve your self-confidence over the long-term – but sometimes you need an instant boost. So here are some secrets to boosting your self-confidence in just a few second.

在一段长时间内，用来提升自信的方法有许多种——但是，有时候我们却需要一种即时的激励。所以，下面就为大家介绍在数秒钟之内激发自信的几个秘诀。

1. Smile

The one-second tip for when you’re feeling nervous and unconfident is simply to smile! The act of smiling is so strongly associated with positive feelings that it’s almost impossible to feel bad while smiling. Smiling is much more then just a facial expression, you will also appear more confident to others while you’re smiling.

秘诀之一: 微笑

在你感到焦虑不安、缺乏信心之时，使你即刻解脱的秘诀是——非常简单——微笑!微笑这一行为与正面积极的情感如此紧密地联系在一起,所以当你微笑时，你感觉沮丧的几率微乎其微。微笑绝不仅仅只是一种普通的面部表情，所以，当你微笑的时候，在别人眼里你就会更显得自信。

2. Make eye contact

As well as smiling, meet the eyes of other people in the room. Give them your smile; you’ll almost certainly get one back, and being smiled at is a great self-confidence boost. This tip is particularly useful for work-related situations. Eye contact also helps in getting the attention of the audience.

秘诀之二: 保持目光接触

像保持微笑一样，你还需要保持与房间内的其他人都有目光接触。先对他人微笑，几乎总会有人回应你的微笑，这样的回应就会激励你的自信。这一条秘诀在工作相关的场合相当实用。同时,目光的接触还有益于吸引观众的注意力。

3. Change your inner voice

Being able to change that inner voice is key to feeling self-confident on the inside, which will help you project your confidence to the world. Make your inner voice a supportive friend who knows you fully but also recognizes your talents and gifts, and wants you to make the best of yourself. Your voice should always support you, always be helpful, never aggressive and it never puts you down.

秘诀之三: 改变你心中发出的声音

改变我们心中的声音才是使自己从内心感到自信起来的关键，这也同样有助于我们向世人展示自己的自信。要学会控制自己心中的声音，使其成为完全了解自己并同时认可你自己的才能及天赋的一个朋友，这个朋友希望你达到自己的最佳状态。当然，这些声音都必须乐观积极、于你有益，永远不会使你过度自信，也不会使你灰心丧气。

4. Forget other people’s standards

Whatever the situation that’s causing you a crisis of self-confidence, you can help yourself immeasurably by holding yourself to your own standards alone. And remember that commonly-held values and standards vary from society to society: you don’t have to accept them just because the people around you do.

秘诀之四: 抛开他人价值认定标准

不管是什么情况所导致的自信危机，你都可以进行最大限度的自我调节，方法是——坚持自己所认定的价值标准。而且，务必谨记，大众所认为的价值观和标准会随着社会的改变而改变:我们完全没有必要因为自身周围公众所作所为而被迫接受他们的价值标准。

5. Make the most of your appearance

Perfect your physical appearance: There’s no denying that one’s grooming plays a crucial role in building confidence. Although we know what’s on the inside is what truly counts, your physical appearance will be the first to create an impression.

秘诀之五: 呈现你最好的仪表

改进你的仪态仪表:毫无疑问，衣着打扮在建立自信的过程中起着决定性作用。尽管人人都知道，内在美才是最重要的，但是，外在衣着打扮是给人留下深刻印象的第一要素。

6. Pray or meditate briefly

Dear God, thank you that you love and accept me as I am … please help me to do the same … and help me to grow to become the person you want me to be so that my God-confidence and self-confidence will increase greatly—all for the glory of your name and not mine. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Amen.

秘诀之六: 作短暂的祈祷或沉思

亲爱的上帝，感谢你对我的爱和包容......请帮助我，使我爱您并且投入您的怀抱......请帮助我，让我成为您所期望的那个人，使我大大提升对您的信仰及我的自信——一切荣耀均属于您的名下，我不会叨光。感谢您的聆听，感谢您回应我的祈祷。希望这个祈祷能实现。

7. Reframe

If something unexpected happens, it’s easy to let it knock your fledgling self-confidence. Try to “reframe” the situation; put it in the best possible light: often, events are only negative because of the meaning we attach to them.

秘诀之七: 换个角度看问题

如果有意外发生，往往很容易就能将你刚刚建立的少许自信击碎。试着“换个角度”看问题;往最好的一面去想: 通常，事物之所以具有负面意义完全是由于我们把自己的主观思想强加在上面。

8. Contribute something

Whatever the situation you’re in, make an effort to contribute. Even if you don’t think you have much to say, your thoughts and perspective are valuable to those around you.

秘诀之八: 积极主动开口

不管你现在处于哪种状态，试着主动与人交流吧。即使你觉得自己无话可说，但是，也许说出你的观点与看法，会使你周围的人获益匪浅呢。